I know this to be true personally. Thanksgiving and Christmas were hard for me after going through a divorce because I was still grieving and hadn’t found my new normal. I was so used to the way my ex-husband and I did things and spending the holidays with him as a family that without him I did not really enjoy the holidays. Without him there the first couple years I pretended to be happy for the kids but inside I was all gloom.
As time went by I stopped grieving and found my new normal.
I had to redefine my idea of what it means to be a family. Of course I would like to be married again, but me and my children are a family. I gave up waiting for what I wish I could have and learned to be thankful for what I do have, to enjoy life now as it is, as it comes, every day that Jesus gives me. I learned to enjoy the holidays and to make them special for my kids!
I learned to embrace my family and let them be there for me and my children during the holidays and other days. Being independent and coming from a place of shame and pain for what I had gone through made it hard to do but it was necessary. I also learned to enjoy the holidays at home with just us by starting new traditions and making new memories with my children.
If you’re going through a transition and haven’t found your new normal don’t do what I did and wait so long to get on with living and enjoying life. Start now.
Maybe your issues isn’t divorce. Maybe it’s a loved one passing, a child not home, a broken friendship, a sickness or maybe you don’t have a husband or children to spend the holidays with and you thought you’d be married and enjoying your own family by now. Whatever it is don’t let the devil or things you can’t change rob you of your present moments. Be thankful for those you have, be present with them and enjoy them. Whether you plan to spend thanksgiving with family, friends or home with your kids or by yourself look for ways to make the holidays special and enjoyable for yourself and those whom the Lord has given you.
Enjoy your Thanksgiving Day!
Last week I moved back into my house after a serious remodel. My plan was to go to Tacoma with my other children to visit my daughter for Thanksgiving but I lost my driver’s license and my mom is in the hospital (nothing too serious, thank God!). After two strikes I decided to stay home for the Thanksgiving and fly my daughter out. I’m not sure if I will go to my sister’s house and spend the day with family or chill at home with my kids, but this I know for sure, I will be thankful for what I have and enjoy my day with the ones who love me best.
Beloved, I wish you a very wonderful and happy Thanksgiving! I am praying that if you need it, God will help you find your new normal,